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New Year's Resolutions: How to keep them

New Year's Resolutions: How to keep them

By Monica on 07 January, 2016

Each year at this time, most of us feel the need to review the last year and make changes for the next.  We make New Year’s resolutions to facilitate that renewal and to try to make our lives better.

What’s the purpose of New Year’s Resolutions?

Usually  aim of making resolutions is to change our lives and bring us more personal, social or occupational success.  This is the purpose behind even such general ideas as “be a better person” or “change.”  

Exercise more, give up smoking, lose weight, learn languages, initiate studies ... these are probably the most common resolutions. But although we start with the firm intention of fulfilling our resolutions, they tend to fade in the first days of January. 

Why does this happen?

Basically, although some resolutions come from personal motivation, others come from suggestions by others, or work, family or social pressures.   These objectives tend not to be structured in a realistic way and can be poorly defined, too ambitious or too general. 

We also have to consider the personality traits that makes us stand firm and do our work every day – what we call "willpower."

How can we ensure our resolutions are successful?

List all your resolutions, but focus on one. Choose the one that's most important to you.   This is not necessarily the goal imposed by family, friends or even doctors, but should be our goal.  The more resolutions we have, the more difficulty we have in meeting them.

Define the resolution in a concrete and realistic way.   “Exercise” is not the same as “I will go to the gym on Monday and Friday between 6pm and 7pm.”

Do not have radical goals.   “Reduce sweet consumption to once a week” is more likely to be successful than “never eat sweets.”

Structure your main goal with daily or weekly targets. It is better to climb the ladder rung by rung. Better "this week I have to go lose one pound in weight" than "I have to lose 20 kg this year."

Discuss your resolution with your family and friends. They will help you achieve your goal, and may even join you, encouraging you to stick to the resolution.

Create a calendar and mark when you have achieved one of your smaller targets.

Congratulate yourself on your achievements. For example, give yourself a little treat when you've reached one of your goals.

Why do I feel like a failure / Why don’t I meet my goals? Can you help to properly plan my goals for next year? As a JustAnswer Expert Psychologist JustAnswer,  I can help.   Just check here and together we can try to achieve your resolutions.

Happy New Year to all and hope your resolutions are successful!